Irrational fears dating
So they behave irrationally until that need is fulfilled.The problem comes when they fulfill that need so they continue to act irrationally.In other words if he was at a rodeo, then his yelling would seem appropriate for the situation.But since he’s at a restaurant, his behavior is definitely perceived as irrational.
However, what we see from our perspective is someone yelling inappropriately and seemingly out of context.There are a number of reasons someone would go off like that.In the end, what he’s really yelling about isn’t usually obvious.I guess some people might think I was manipulating or influencing her in some way, but my primary goal was that she was able to get through the flight without getting any negative feelings. I sat there, sometimes a tad uncomfortable because of the amount of times she talked about my looks.Not that I wasn’t flattered, but at the time, I was married, and not interested in other people. Like I said, No fear or anxiety about being inside a plane.
Heck, even someone who is completely rational most of the time can suddenly “lose it” because something triggers him or her.